I had a friend ranting bout this the other day. Her bestie got married and she's not sure if she should really genuinely feel happy for her. In fact, she's sad.
It's not because that she got married. But, it's more like ever since she met the then bf, things had changed tremendously. They no longer met after that and she did not even inform bout all her life changing experience.
It's not the first time I heard bout story like this. In fact, many. Many of these people practically ditch the friends and devote 100% to the partner. It's not that you should be ditching your partner, but what is wrong with spending time with your old buddies, friends who stick by you even before meeting your partner.
All these tend to happen to girls more. Once they get a bf, it's goodbye to friends and I don't know why must it happen in such a way. When your ex ditch you, it isn't these guys that were there for you. It's your friends.
You don't have to choose between the two. Manage your time and issue resolved, right? Not being with your partner won't die, you still have your oxygen. Unless you are saying that you breathe by looking at him only then the oxygen works. Even if so, bring the oxygen tank out.