It's about 'me'

I have met way more people in the past. As I got older, my circle is getting smaller and smaller and eventually, I think it will all fizzle off. Have you ever come across someone who talks all about themselves and nothing else? I have, more than I would like to in both genders.

I am currently watching Later Daters, it is about a show of people between the ages of 56 and 70, have been single for awhile and would like to get back into the dating world but do not how to. Some of them have been single for 15 years, so it's been a long time. How do people even date anymore?

I have been on dating app before, have been around people from my circle too. There are people out there who just love to talk about themselves, how great they are, the world revolve around them. There was this lady who did not ask any question during the date, so by the end of it, she does not know anything about her date. That's her coping mechanism when she is nervous. Well, I can understand at a certain point people act this way, but not all the time.

There are people who act like that because they suffer from insecurities, or they have some sort of inferiority complex. Looking back at the friendships I had, there are those who have gone wrong due to character, or some were just prioritization. I knew this one guy who had to boost himself, from how much he earned, right until his travels. They are either lack of confidence, they have no value that they have to resort in doing this, or they have underlying problems. But, that isn't my concern.

I had some female friendships too, who I knew a lot about them but they do not know much about me. All because I kept asking the questions, and they happily talked about themselves, including things that are supposed to be private and personal.

Perhaps, regardless the stage they are in, whether in the 30s or 40s, they had enough time to know themselves better and to know how to navigate through life. However, knowing the Millennial generation being like this, it is just sad to know they are lack of self-awareness and the general awareness. It is a crucial part of self-discovery to reflect of what happened, what went wrong and what can be done better. That is how we improve as human beings. Throwing all your emotions to your friends isn't the greatest idea, knowing that they are not a therapist, yet them trying to be a good friend to listen to your problem, yet taking advantage of doing it all the time, isn't the best thing one can do.

We are different, but when I have a problem, I do not throw this burden on a friend to listen to me all the time. I process the problems and feelings on my own, whether in my own thoughts, or by written expressions. It is vital for anyone to find their own ways to express, without burdening much on others. Unless, you engaged a therapist, then sure, do all you have to do because that's their profession. Listening to problems everyday would eventually bring negativity to you. We are surrounded with energy, so it is pivotal to remain positive energy around you. Having the negative vibe will just drown you one day. That's what I learned, and today, we are no longer friends because we have different belief systems, different values, and I realized, I was drowning. I should not carry a burden that is not supposed to be mine.